Yearning management

Maturity does not mean wishes, even yearnings, go away.  Maturity includes working toward the mastery and management of wishes and yearnings.  We have them, but they need not control us.  Yearnings which are constructive - including the yearning for wholesome fun - give us purpose, drive and energy.  Yearnings which are inconsistent with our values, let alone destructive, also need our attention for what they can tell us about ourselves, for the discernment of our choices, the costs of poor choices and the benefits of good choices - and for the cultivation of gratitude for the fact that we have choices.