When I have the presence of mind to
refrain from acting out of habit, there are many questions I might ask in
trying to discover “What is going on here?” and to decide “What shall I do here?” I think those questions are in two different
groups or files or, if you will, baskets.
The first basket is full of questions
arising from anxiety, fear, judgment and insufficiency. Reaching into that basket, I get questions
like, “How can I avoid discomfort?” “How can I get control?” “How can I look
good here?” and “What can I get out of this?”
The second basket is full of questions
flowing from compassion, curiosity, forgiveness, and growth. In this basket I find questions like, “What
is wanted or needed?” “What can I do to help?” “What can I learn here?” and “How
can I wholesomely manage my yearnings?”
