The crossroad: I feel needy, yearning for something, sorry for myself.
That way: ignore good things → focus on need or yearning, on “if only,” on blame of others → feel entitled, self-righteous, stuck → feel cranky, frustrated → find fatigue, conflict, misery.
This way: remember that I’ve been here before → remember one good thing, then another → think how easily and quickly life could be much, much worse → focus on good things → remember good things about people → focus on good things about people, not on blame → remember good feelings from looking outward, gratitude, compassion → cultivate gratitude and compassion → find joy and peace. No circumstance has changed except my awareness and my focus, but life is good again.